I took this picture the day after my University graduation at Disney. It was a big deal. I am the first person in my family to graduate with a four-year degree, and I worked really hard all four years to make the most of my time. I studied late some nights, I did seven internships, I met as many people as I could, but all I got was a really expensive piece of paper. Why am I thinking like this? Well, I am yet to find a job, and my options are getting smaller and smaller everyday here in the city. As I keep applying for jobs, they are either filled with people who are more experienced than me, or by people who have no experience who can be paid less.
But I've learned a lot in the past ten months of being an unemployed post-graduate.
1. DON'T JUDGE YOUR STORY BASED ON OTHERS.
The first couple of months out of school I was fine with not having a job because no one else from my graduating class did. But now as I check Twitter and Instagram I am seeing that more and more people that I knew in school are getting these top notch jobs that they love. Then there's me, just scraping by on money that I saved from various jobs I worked in school. Well here's the thing, I am not my friends, and I am not the girl who had the job lined up for the day after graduation. In fact, the day after graduation I was at Disney with my family. I cannot judge my story based on others. When I do that I take away from what God is trying to do right now. I take away from someone else's successes when I try to make them my own. I take away from my own successes, even if that just means having Lisa Eldridge notice me on Twitter.
2. MOM TALKS FIX MOST THINGS. AND WHAT MOM CAN'T FIX, ICE CREAM CAN.
Do you ever just need a hug from mom when days are bad? What about ice cream when things don't go just right? Well that's what mom's are there for. Mom talks can fix most anything. They can fix bad decisions of spending money you don't have, or being there to help when the job interview you had didn't go as you planned. And whenever mom doesn't fix everything just right, there's always cookie butter ice cream.
3. DON'T LOOK FOR JOBS EVERY DAY.
There's been days and even weeks when I think I am an absolute failure because I can't find a job. And by this point I know you're probably thinking, "Wow, ten months out of school and the girl still can't find a job?! What a loser. She must be lazy." Well no. I'm far from lazy. I've applied for over 100 jobs, and only had two interviews. Applying for jobs everyday can get to your head, so don't. It won't end well.
4. THIS IS A TIME TO BE AS CREATIVE AS POSSIBLE.
I've found that in the past few months I've gotten to be more creative than I ever was in school. I've started a YouTube channel with makeup videos! I've been able to paint again! I've made Mickey ears for our latest trip to Disney! There's nothing better than waking up in the morning with a good idea for a project and actually being able to do it, instead of going to work.
5. I DON'T REALLY WANT TO BE CHAINED TO A DESK FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE.
I learned early in my internships that I hated desk jobs. I made my best friend promise she would make me say no to a job that required me to wear a full business professional suit to work. Desk jail isn't for me. My desk here at my house is fine, because the fridge with all the snacks is just a few feet away, and John from a few cubicles over isn't trying to make small talk about what I did over the weekend. (THAT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS, JOHN!)
6. DANCING IN THE KITCHEN WHILE MAKING LUNCH IS THE BEST.
I usually make lunch for myself at home everyday. Which means that I spend an extended amount of time in my kitchen. Not because I can't make the perfect grilled cheese, but because I get caught up in dancing to "Shake It Off" or "Where Do Broken Hearts Go" that I end up having a small dance party. Kitchen dance parties are the best!
7. MAKING MEMORIES INSTEAD OF MONEY IS OKAY.
During this time of unemployment I've made way more memories than money and I'm okay with that. I've been to Disney way more time than I care to admit, I went to Chicago for the first time, I saw One Direction, I bought Taylor Swift tickets, there have been dinners and nights with friends that I won't be forgetting soon. This is the time to eat pizza until you literally cannot anymore!
8. DON'T TAKE EVERY PIECE OF ADVICE GIVEN.
I've been given a lot of advice from every type of person you can think of about how to land a job, or how to do this or how to do that during this transition time. The best piece of advice I've been given though, was to not take every piece of advice. Yes, I need to listen and be respectful because the person speaking is only trying to help, but too many cooks in the kitchen makes for a bad meal.
9. MAYBE IT'S TIME TO FIND A NEW DREAM?
When I was in school I had this dream to work in sports. That dream seems to be growing dimmer and dimmer. I have other dreams though. I want to move to the UK to do mission work. I want to be able to blog and do makeup full time. It's okay to change dreams. That's what dreams are for. They change as we change.
10. GOD IS STILL IN CONTROL.
Through all of this, I've found one constant, that God is still in control. Despite my constant efforts to try to do things my own way, God still is letting my come back to Him to say, "Your way, not mine." There are days when I wonder what God is doing, and why this process is taking so long, but then I remember that I don't need to be judging myself against other people's story. God is still in the business of writing adventures and He is still writing mine.
Currently Listening Too: "Drag Me Down" by One Direction